Monday, January 21, 2013

What Mattered and What I Remember About Our Wedding Day




Hey everyone, guess what?  My little sister is getting married! We are all so excited for her and her fiance Tristan and while Emily's wedding planning is going really smoothly (fingers crossed that it stays this way) I'm enjoying being able to give advice as her older married sister whose been through it all already!

Over two years into being married, and I still think about our wedding day as one of the happiest days of my life.  I know it sounds cliche, but it really was.  I know that it would be easy to say that it was all so perfect because of the food or the flowers or my dress or the music, but really I think it was so perfect because Alex and I are just meant to be married.  As the saying goes it's about the marriage not the wedding, (or something like that) and oh that is so true, but having a wedding day to look back on often makes our marriage feel even more sweet.

In the spirit of weddings and since I'm taking my bridesmaid duties seriously and have weddings on the brain, I thought I'd talk about what I remember and what mattered on my wedding day.

It seems like the first thing anyone else remembers was the heat.  We had an outdoor wedding in July and it was the start of the crazy heat wave that we had in 2010.  However, I barely remember the heat!   I guess that's good when you're the bride.  My dress was breezy and our programs which doubled as fans were working just fine for me.  Although I've gotten the distinct feeling over the past years, that apparently I was the only one not bothered by the heat.  Haha.  I guess my adrenaline canceled it out.

I remember two things going wrong.  The first was our shuttle bus for the guests showing up late and causing us not to start on time and the second was not being happy with my hair.  I still think about my hair thing sometimes and how I should have planned it better.  Isn't that ridiculous?  Even though I know it didn't matter one bit, and that other people probably thought my hair looked great, it's the one thing I think about as wishing I could go back and change, even though it totally doesn't matter at all.  That's vanity for you, I guess.  It doesn't make any sense but sometimes it's hard to ignore.

But I know my hair didn't matter.  What mattered was writing our own vows and keeping them a secret from each other until the ceremony.  I knew in my heart when I was planning the wedding that this was really important to me, and it turned out being more meaningful than I could have ever imagined.  That and having our parents involved in the ceremony.  Both of our moms read something and Alex's dad officiated the wedding.

What also mattered was the speeches I made our family and friends give us.  Alex and I still quote my sisters saying "I'm so happy your so happy!" All the time.  And I'm so happy that I did a "father daughter dance." That was the one dance that we did officially (Alex and I didn't do an official first dance) and it was really memorable for me.

When it comes to the party, I remember there not being enough Boilo- the homemade whiskey that our family makes, and I wish we had thought to make more.  I remember the cake being so, so, so simple and perfect and delicious, and of course the dancing, especially the world's most epic conga line ever.

And then there were so many non wedding wedding moments that I think about all the time! Like getting ready with my sisters, family and friends before, the BBQ we had at my parents house the night before for traveling family and the fun I had doing the flowers ourselves.  We ordered them online and then assembled everything the day before.  And then the amazing after party back at the hotel, where they kept the bar, pool and hot tub open late for us, and everyone just let loose for party number two.  I remember waking up the next day crazy hung over but getting to have breakfast with all of my family and friends in the hotel lobby. I remember the eggs being delicious.

So did my hair matter? No, not one bit. Neither did not starting on time, but I'll still think of those things from time to time.  Luckily, I have a million other beautiful and amazing memories form that one day (can so many good things really happen in one day?) to keep that warm and fuzzy memory fresh and shiny in my mind.

I can't wait for Emily's wedding! I'm so excited for her to get to experience the exact same types of memories for the rest of her life.

What about you guys? I'd love to hear wedding memories in the comments!  Please share.  And is anyone planning a wedding right now too? Let's get girly and talk about tying the knot.

12 comments:

  1. So funny! I wasn't happy with my wedding hair either. But I hardly think of it now unless I'm looking at pictures. What mattered to me was having both of our families together to celebrate. And spending the day with my husband by my side :)

    ReplyDelete
  2. Yesterday was my husband and my 17th wedding anniversary. There were a million little things about my wedding that in hindsight I might have changed (ok, maybe not a MILLION), but in the end, those things never really mattered. I was just happy to be getting married to my husband. You might want to tell your sister to hold a tissue in the hand she is holding her bouquet in as she walks down the aisle. I started crying so much when I saw my husband waiting for me (from joy, I promise) that I had to steal my maid of honor's tissue from her.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thanks for the advice Heather! And yes, that is a very good idea, because she was crying more than me and MY wedding hahaha. Happy anniversary!

      Delete
  3. "the world's most epic conga line ever"

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I mean, I'm not exaggerating, am I?

      Delete
  4. im so happy you're so happy. there's not much more to say.

    ReplyDelete
  5. Your wedding is in my top three of the most fun weddings ever, and i count my own in there. Epic. I am sure your sister's wedding will be a blast. Make lots of Boilo!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Aww thanks Kate! I know, I can't wait!

      Delete
  6. Awww. Congratulations to your sister! I loved this post. We almost share a wedding anniversary (Marco and I got married in August that year), and I also remember the time around the wedding (and the wedding itself of course) as one of the happiest I've been. It was stressful, and not all the details we had planned went right, but it was just so special to have all our friends and family around to celebrate our love and commitment. Especially because he is from Canada and I'm from Germany, and with us living in London, we do not often have the chance to organize a big get-together. It was all one big love-fest.

    ReplyDelete
  7. I'm really looking forward to getting married, whenever it ends up happening (I'm not even engaged yet haha). I have been planning my hair for a long time ha! It's so nice to hear somebody talk about their wedding and talk about their feelings about the day rather than the flowers, the dress, the table decorations etc. I think that wedding guests can feel the atmosphere of a couple who are just glad to be getting married, irrespective of anything else, and that makes for one awesome wedding :)

    ReplyDelete
  8. i love this post so much— you look so happy and beautiful!

    ReplyDelete