|Making my bed every day is an important routine that I actually stick to.|
Okay guys, I have to write another Tiny Buddha inspired post today. Two days in a row! But sometimes this website really speaks to me, and I guess it's just one of those kind of weeks.
As 2012 is coming to a close, I'm feeling a little down. Another year has gone by and my professional writing goals have not been met. As I've been thinking about writing a post reflecting on the year, all I seem to keep thinking is that I'm disappointed in myself for not achieving any writing goals. My blog traffic is not where I want it to be, I do not have a manuscript of my novel ready to submit to an agent let alone even have an agent. I don't like when I find myself only thinking negatively, and I try to stay positive while also keeping it real on this blog, but as December approaches, all I can really think is- where has this year gone?
Part of being a person with creative goals outside of my day career (yes, it's much more meaningful than a day job, which I'm grateful for) means that I need to make the time to do the things I love. I feel like I've spent my entire life trying to live by routine but it never lasts. I remember making lists really young in life- like 7 or 8 years old as a way to make the most out of my days. I've started to think that living by a routine is stiff, not the kind of life meant for a creative person, it just doesn't work. But after reading "Create Better Days With Empowering Routines and Loving Rituals," I'm feeling inspired to give routine and ritual a shot once more. I was really moved by this quote:
"If you want an extraordinary life, you must have equally extraordinary routines and rituals."It's possible that I've spent the entire year, off and on, channeling my energy towards bad habits instead of my real desires and goals. By going online as soon as I come home from work for no reason, or watching TV instead of exercising, or not cooking dinner and/or eating a bad breakfast, I get myself stuck in an "alternating cycle of feeling either overwhelmed or paralyzed." Pretty awful right? Why do I keep doing this to myself? But without routines and rituals, I do.
I also find myself having a hard time balancing social time with work time. And sometimes I won't do something socially because I have to go home and write, and then I don't end up writing. UGH.
So how do I establish a routine, and some rituals and allow myself to be flexible instead of rigid? I'm not entirely sure, but I hoping to spend the rest of the year thinking about it and figuring some things out and hopefully start living an extraordinary life ofextraordinary routines and rituals in the new year.
Ideas that I have right now include writing in a gratitude journal about what I'm thankful for as a bed time ritual every night and using the simple routine of taking a shower every morning as a time for reflection and a way for me to choose how I want to feel during my day.
The big thing though is establishing a writing routine. That's what I still need to think about, however rituals are still really important and I think will help my writing in the long run. Smouse writes in her article that rituals offer "compassionate disciple," which I think I need to stop being so hard on myself when it comes to my writing. And they are different from a routine because they need to be "celebratory and meaningful."
I'm curious readers, are you a routine person? Do you find them too rigid or do you have a hard time maintaining them, like me? Do you have special rituals that are important to you? I'd love to hear about some of your routines and rituals in the comments. Let's chat!