Thursday, September 20, 2012

Let's talk about makeup


This picture of me wearing the most makeup I've ever worn, pretty much sums this post up.

I saw a post of Facebook about September 21st being "Fresh Face Day" the idea being to "take a break from makeup and talk about beauty."  And while I think this is a great idea,especially since it was created by a 15 year old girl, my participation won't really have the same effect because I pretty much never wear makeup.  As in I have a makeup bag, but it includes things like a MAC blush compact that my cousin gave me when she used to work there from, I don't know, 2007?

So I thought I'd share what goes through my brain when I think about my relationship with make up.

I first remember asking my mom if I could wear mascara in high school (maybe 9th grade?) and I remember feeling weird about it.  I think her reaction was something along the lines of, "I was wondering when you'd get curious about make up, and sure!"  I remember girls starting to wear makeup in middle school, and for whatever reason, it just wasn't for me.  The idea of using makeup myself embarrassed then in this weird way- it doesn't make sense, but that's the only way I can describe the feeling.  I was embarrassed to try makeup on.  I think because when I did, my face looked so completely different to me (maybe not as extreme to others) and I was afraid everyone would stare at me.  Very similar to the feeling I had back then when I got a new haircut.  I connect this to your typical adolescence awkwardness and also to the fact that I was always really tall, and people were always pointing that out.  My entire childhood, I just wanted to blend in.  I guess not wearing makeup was one small way that I could try to do that.

I'm pretty sure my first tube of mascara dried out pretty quickly.  I hated trying to put makeup on.  It was similar to drawing or sewing or painting my nails.  It involved small motor skills which I have never had (and still don't to this day).  I sort of decided I just wouldn't wear makeup, just like I decided I just wouldn't wear heels.  Writing this now, I think it makes me seem super confidant.  Like I didn't need make up to hide behind and feel comfortable as a teenager.  But in reality, I think that wearing makeup or high heels always made me feel the opposite of how most girls feel in those things.  It always made me feel uncomfortable and self conscious.  And I think I saw the girls who wore fun makeup every day as the confidant ones.  The other problem was I was always touching my eyes or rubbing my face and I couldn't for the life of me figure out how to eat with lipstick on.

In college, I started wearing eye makeup every once in a while and had fun with it.  I never felt tied down to having to wear makeup - something that I've heard woman talk about before, and I think that's how my relationship with makeup has remained.  I just started wearing lipstick occasionally last year and sometimes like a little blush, mascara and eye liner (only on the bottom, because I just can't do it right on top).  I never wear makeup to work though, again because I feel self conscious! Like everyone would say, "oh you're wearing makeup today!"  I know, it's silly.  Who cares, right?  And also, that probably wouldn't even happen.  I also know though that it would either completely rub off or I would have to keep checking myself in the mirror every 45 minutes, which just isn't my style.  I don't really like the way my skin feels after a few hours of wearing makeup.  I just can't imagine wearing it all day, every day.  Although I understand why some people do.

As a bridesmaid in my cousin's wedding (the one who gave me that compact) we all had our makeup done professionally, and I remember feeling so silly with layers of foundation and fake eyelashes.  I felt completely unnatural and pretty uncomfortable.  But people kept telling me I looked amazing, and when I see pictures from that day, I agree.  But the pictures tell a different story.  A ton of tasteful makeup makes you look perfect for a picture, but in real like I just didn't feel like me.

I would love to hear your stories about makeup in the comments, I know there have to be so many different ones out there! How often do you wear makeup? What do you love about it? What do you hate about it?  I don't think there's anything I really truly love about makeup which is why I rarely wear it.  But I do think it's fun to wear sometimes, otherwise I don't think I'd ever wear it at all.  Do you ever feel pressured to wear makeup?  I'd love to hear from all of you!

And finally, a vlog of me going through my makeup bag with a surprise guest at the very end! Thanks for watching everyone! xo


The secret life of my makeup bag from Well and Cheaply on Vimeo.

27 comments:

  1. I wear makeup to work every day (I am a waitress) but for the most part on my days off I don't (unless I am hungover, when I try to prettify myself into feeling better). When I wear makeup I don't wear a ton. I wear mascara and blush, a bit of powder and sometimes eyeliner/shadow.
    My friend works for a well known lingere company (it rhymes with shmagent shmrovacateur) and their shop girls are required in their contract to wear at least six makeup items and heels. Good lord.

    ANYWAY, what I would love to talk to you about more is being really tall and wanting to blend in! I am 6'3", and was super tall super young (like, 6' at 12) and it had/has the biggest impact on my life of any physical attribute.

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    1. 6 makeup items and heels?? Yikes! Yes we should do tall girl posts! And I could talk about how I never wear heels and have been 5'9" since I was 11. 6'3" though, that is awesome! Please do a blog post about that!

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  2. I used to wear a ton of black eyeliner in high school. It was part of my overall girl punk thing. As I got older it became a special occasion thing and now I barely ever wear any make-up. Only if I'm going out dancing or to a party, and if I'm visiting my grandmother I put on lipstick because it makes her happy.

    I don't know if it's confidence or laziness (both?) but on a daily basis I just can't be bothered.

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    1. Yes! I think it's a lazy kind of confidence. Wearing lipstick for your grandmother is sweet though.

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  3. hahaha love the ending! LOL! this little guy...

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  4. When I have seen photographs of you on here I always think how wonderful you look without make up. I wish I had the confidence to just wear no make up at all, but the fact is, I don't feel like myself without it on (the complete opposite to you!) If I know I'm doing something important, or something which requires my being assertive or confident, I simply could not do it as well without make up. I'm kind of sad that this is the way I feel, but I don't wear a lot so I suppose it's not too bad. I don't know where it's come from but I like being able to change my face, and hide things, and it's a confidence thing definitely. I've always had low self-esteem so I think that probably triggers it. That's not to say that I never go out without make up, I do, but usually on days where it doesn't 'matter' if that makes sense.

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    1. I think it's great though that you know it will help with your confidence when you need it! That way you've got all the power. No ones forcing you to wear it, you just know it will help you feel good. I feel like I'm that way with wearing the perfect outfit, it can really help your overall mood!

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  5. i feel naked without mascara on--but could go sans the rest. If i'm tan im ok without makeup...but in the winter i feel pretty scary without it! lol

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    1. I never though about the tan thing, but I can totally see that!

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  6. until recently, makeup to me was just mascara, blush, lipgloss. that's as complicated as i got. when i worked as a fashion consultant i felt like i had to wear that everyday. i guess so i would be taken seriously at my job? i dunno. so then i never wanted to wear makeup when i wasn't at work.

    but now i work at a bakery and it's basically the opposite. i wake up at 5 am and there is no way any sort of beauty routine is happening that early. plus, i am covered in cake batter and frosting all day and pulling things in and out of an oven— not a pretty sight. now anytime i am off work, i WANT to put on makeup (and curl my hair!). this year one of my goals is to learn a makeup routine that works for me. i've learned to do an awesome cat eye, i even wear eyeshadow, and i own TWO lipsticks. now when i run out of an item i have been getting "real" replacements for it. i just can't seem to find a powder that i like since i have freckles.

    anyway, i think there is no such thing as too much or too little makeup— it's just whatever you are comfortable in!

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    1. Yes, I agree with that too! I was a baker in college and yes, it would be completely crazy to wear makeup to that job! Oh how I loved taking a shower after my baking shifts :)

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  7. Ok,so this is my first time commenting on your blog (I think) so HI. Secondly,I enjoying reading this post. I've always been curious about makeup,but don't really know what I'm doing when applying it (hello,Youtube!) and plus I'm practically blind,so that doesn't help either. For now,I think I'll stick to lipstick/gloss haha. :P Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

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    1. Hi Amber! Thanks so much for your comment! Yes, my friend Angela is obsessed with watching certain youtube makeup tutorials, some of them are really good. Going over to check out your blog right now!

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  8. I feel like I could have written a lot of your post. While makeup wasn't forbidden fruit when I was a teenager, it wasn't something that was overly present. My mother didn't wear makeup. I'm pretty sure most of my friends mothers didn't wear makeup... or if they did, it was very minimal and natural. The only time that makeup was made a big deal was for dance recitals and school plays, situations where makeup was essential so you didn't look washed out from the stage lights... and the thing about stage makeup? You layer it on so heavy that you look like a $12 hooker.

    I didn't really start to get into makeup in terms of everyday wear until I moved to NYC, and even then I still wear it pretty sparingly, and usually... the only thing I do is my eyes and maybe some lip gloss. It's something I've gotten into begrudingly because I found myself working in offices where my job didn't require that I dress a certain way, but there was definitely a standard that most women in the offices I was working dressed to... fashionable clothing, heels, makeup, etc... and the one thing I often noticed was that my lack of initiative in my appearance meant I was not worth talking to. It made me invisible... and granted, at times this has certainly been a good thing because that means people left me alone to do my work and didn't socialize with me but on the same token... It was isolating and I was beginning to feel like a social pariah. Make-up was something I felt I had to learn to fit in... but I still resist it heavily.

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    1. Very interesting Nikkiana. It sucks to have to wear makeup begrudgingly.

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  9. I hardly ever wear make up - sometimes a bit of mascara and/or blusher if I'm feeling rundown; sometimes some foundation on my nose and forehead when it's cold (they get splotchy); mostly nothing. I have the same feeling that people are going to go, "Oh! You're wearing make up today!" and think I'm having some major life overhaul/going to a job interview/something. I am generally fairly confident but it's not about that - I just don't see the need, never got into the habit, thought it was an expense I couldn't justify...

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    1. So glad to hear that you have that feeling that people are going to notice and say something too!

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  10. That little bag is darling!

    I usually wear mascara and eyebrow pencil every day to work or when I go out, and that's it. But it does make me feel more confident. Even with just those two items, my face seem to change into something a bit prettier. I've had the same routine since I was a young teenager. I also love painting my nails (fingers and toes), because that's something I find easy to do and it makes me happy to look at that little flash of colour.

    When I'm feeling glamorous, I like to wear thick, 50s style eyeliner, but it takes me about an hour to get it right, because I'm not very good at applying it, so I don't do it very often. Red lipstick sometimes is nice, too.

    I do buy a lot of make up, though, because I really like the idea of it, and then it ends up living in a cabinet without being used. I've had the same red lipstick for over 15 years. That's probably a bit gross, isn't it?

    The last time I wore full make-up was on my wedding day. A friend did it for me, fake lashes and all, and I actually felt quite good in it. But my friend did a brilliant job in keeping it quite natural and even with all the extras, I still looked like myself.

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    1. Thanks Annika! I love painting my nails too, I totally forgot about that being makeup, but I guess it is :)

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  11. This was like reading an exerpt from my own diary :)

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  12. I don't wear a whole lot of make-up either. I wear mascara and eyeliner, and once in awhile a lip tint/gloss, but that's it. Oh, and I paint my toenails. Doing full face make-up everyday is not really something I want to be part of my routine, or really even something I think I necessarily need. It'd be nice to know how to do it confidently just for special occasions, but for everyday life it's not for me. I like being low maintenance in that regard, and I know my boyfriend likes that, too (I don't take forever to get ready, and he doesn't end up with random make-up/lipstick blotches on himself or his clothes).

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  13. Great post! I, like most here, dont wear make-up. I work in a kitchen all day, so not much point there! I laughed when I read the comments you got when you did have make-up on. I get them too. "Oh you look so pretty, are you wearing make-up?" Even my daughter will be shocked. "Mom, are you wearing make-up??!" And the shoes..Im so glad Im not the only one who feels out of sorts in heels! Im 5ft tall and last fall I bought a pair of clogs that have a heel and every time I wear them I feel tall. lol and like Im lumbering around in them :)
    I always enjoy your blog!

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    1. Thanks so much! Clogs are the closest thing I ever get to heels lol.

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  14. I like this post very much ! I find it very interesting, an I can recognize you in it.
    Also it make me think about appearances in life and the all condition of women ; of course I don't really think about that every day in front of my mirror when I put the mascara on. But actually, why only women "have to" be different, hidden, ha, yes, prettier ? with the make up...
    Now I have to stay at home and I wear make up almost every day, just for me, to feel better and not to have a "sick face" ! But when I work I feel that I have to wear a little make up, it's "conventional", I don't know how to say. I can't say that I don't like make up...
    Just one more thing : I buy only "organic" make up, I am sure that no animal have been hurt.:)

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  15. I neeeeeever wear makeup... unless I'm going to a wedding & I have to ask someone to do my makeup for me (like my sister, ha.). I just am not really a make-up person. I mean except when I was younger and thought that glittery blue eye shadow was totally awesome...... hah!

    My "makeup" consists of Burt's Bees chapstick. Preferably the original, but for some reason I have the honey one in my purse... not the same, at all.

    I wonder if I will start to wear makeup any time soon, I don't know. I just can't imagine spending my money on makeup when I could buy new yarn or books instead! Hahaha.

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    1. Yes! I feel like putting on my Oil of Olay lotion is my makeup haha! And I agree, I've always thought makeup is too expensive.

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