Friday, September 21, 2012

Ensconced in Velvet













































I guess I never really sleep alone with these two fur balls!


Alex is away at a conference until Sunday.  We never spend this much time apart and it feels weird- I miss him!  But also, extremely...restful.  As in, I sleep so much better when I have the entire bed to myself!  I know it's a totally taboo idea for married couples to have separate bedrooms, but do you think you'd ever consider it?

Luckily Alex doesn't snore (knock on wood that he never does!) so it's not that that's the problem.  I sleep fine with him, but I always notice how much more rested I feel when I sleep alone.  Last night I slept through the entire night and would roll over so I slept on both sides of the bed.  I love rolling over in the middle of the night to a cold fresh pillow, it feels so good and relaxing!

Even so, I don't think I could ever sleep in another bed when he is home (not like that's even an option in our one bedroom apartment.) The main reason would be that too many great conversations happen between us when we're still awake but in bed together. Although this Salon article on the topic, does make some compelling arguments.  Like this one:
Stanley then turned to the effects of all of those poor nights of sleep, charting a sad lineup of outcomes ranging from divorce to depression to heart disease. But there was hope, he said. Because sleep is as important as diet and exercise, maximizing our rest meant that we would be fitter, smarter, healthier — the sort of people, in short, we would want to share a cuddle with. “Isn’t it much better when someone tiptoes across the corridor for a snuggle because they want to, rather than snoring, farting and kicking all through the night?” Stanley wondered.
But, what about romance? And I'm not talking about sex when I say that.  I'm thinking the best solution is a king sized bed (again, not an option in our current apartment).  If we ever have a bedroom big enough to fit a king sized bed, I'm going to insist we buy one.  It must be the answer!

Do you sleep better alone? Have you ever had this exact same thought and then thought how horrible a partner you are for thinking it? I'd love to hear all about it in the comments!


PS- In response to number 22 in my 25 things about me post: "I don't care which side of the bed I sleep on. Neither does Alex. We don't sleep on the same side every night. Whenever I've told this to someone, they are always appalled."

I recently got the best comment:
haha, I was telling my husband about your sleeping situation the other night, his reaction "the only thing it says about them is that they must be serial killers."

LOL.  See? I told you, people have extreme reactions to this!

Also, this post on velvet bedding is one of my liked posts in my Bloglovin' because I am seriously considering buying it.

25 comments:

  1. you crack me up! though i totally agree - i get the best night's sleep when i'm by my lonesome. far less tossing and turning, only my own temperature, no blanket hogging... but i do notice that when my honey isn't there, i sleep on his side. maybe it's so i still feel close?

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  2. My husband has stints at work where he is on the night shift and I always sleep better during those times! But I do miss him while he's gone, I love snuggling when we wake up in the morning (not when we're going to sleep, I need my space!)

    Our solution is also a king sized bed when we have the space for it... can't wait for that day! :)

    sandrajoys.blogspot.com

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    1. Seems like King Size really is the answer can't wait for the day either!

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  3. A king sized bed is the answer. Best investment we ever made!

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    1. Okay, this is good to hear! And I remember buying you sheets from your wedding registry!

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    2. Those are my FAVORITE sheets! I am always psyched when the weather starts cooling down and I can get them out. A couple more weeks and it will be time!

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  4. I sleep way better without him. Sleep issues are a huge thing in our house. He snores, he hasn't quite learned that his side of the bed isn't the middle, and he sleeps like a heavy dead log. Waking him up to get him to move to his side of the bed? Damn near impossible. Plus, depending on what his work schedule is and what my work schedule is, sometimes our sleep schedules are incredibly incompatible.

    I am SO looking forward to construction being finished in our other bedroom so we end up having separate beds as an option. I don't imagine we'll sleep separately all the time, but I think it's a good option to have.

    As for other things that people consider odd about sleep about us... The fact that our bed is pushed up against the wall weirds some people out because I guess there's some superstition about not having a good sex life that I haven't found to be true. I don't have a strong preference about left or right side of the bed, but I do prefer to be on the side that's not against the wall and thankfully, he prefers the wall. We also have a habit of sometimes changing up which orientation our heads go, usually this happens if someone's taking a nap or if someone is feeling very unsettled at bedtime, for some weird reason changing sleeping orientation seems to soothe things for us.

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    1. I used to sleep with my head on the other end of the bed when I couldn't sleep as a kid. I forgot about it! And yes, something about it really did work!

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  5. a king size bed is a must...it makes a HUGE difference!

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  6. I quite often go to bed before my boyfriend and I fall asleep easily on my own; when he's away, though, it takes me ages to get to sleep in the big empty bed. I think it's largely pyschological for me, not really to do with the amount of physical space I have. A bigger bed *would* be nice, though, when we have a larger home...

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  7. I've had chronic insomnia since I was 9 years old, and I swear the only thing that makes it better is having another person in bed with me -- boyfriend, dog, whatever. My boyfriend, on the other hand, can NEVER sleep as well when I'm in bed with home, and I always feel so terrible about it.

    so, yes. King bed is the way to go!

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  8. Haha, this post was really funny! I do sleep better on my own yeah but would never consider sleeping separately. Cuddles and talking in bed is my favourite part of the day. Maybe a king size is the answer to EVERYONE'S problems?! :) xx

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    1. Haha thanks Suzy! And I might just take it even further and say a king sized bed is the answer to every one of everyone's problems.

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  9. I'm always convinced zombies will come barging in when I'm on my own. So, in my lack of sleep induced fits of irrationality I baracade the doors with cardboard boxes. You know, so I can hear the zombies stumble over them.

    And a king sized bed helped me sleep about 1000 times better when the mister is home and there are no chances of zombie apocolypse.

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  10. :) our bed is also one of those that's pushed up against the wall, and even though I HATE sleeping against the wall I think it's for the better 'cause otherwise I'd get pushed out every single night :/
    My husband seems to believe that I'm a body pillow for some reason! (I wonder what that says about us! ;)

    xo
    Alex

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  11. I think I sleep better alone, too. There is definitely the occasional night that I move myself into the guest bedroom because I can't fall asleep in our bed. Though, we recently upgraded to a Cal King bed and it is so spacious! We love it.

    We do have sides of the bed, but I have noticed that when we stay in a hotel, we tend to sleep opposite of how we sleep at home. Living on the edge here, people.

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  12. I do sleep better alone I think, but would never every want to have separate beds. I enjoy the random cuddles and talking and general closeness too much. We have a king sized bed now (never thought I would) and I think it makes a huge difference.

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  13. I always sleep fine without my husband, but he insists that he has trouble sleeping without me. Hah! If I lay down to take a nap and he looks like he's thinking about joining me, I immediately say, "don't even think about it!" Solo naps are a must for me. We recently upgraded to a king size bed and it has made a HUGE difference for me. I no longer get whacked or kicked during the night (husband is a wild sleeper!) and it's nice to have space.

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  14. My husband of 13 years and I each have our own bedrooms and have had for the entirety of our married life. And we are and always have been very much in love! We both have extremely different sleep habits and are quite certain that the relationship would not have lasted (or maybe not even have happened) if we were forced to sleep in the same bed every night. So this was a necessity for our being together at all. And actually it's fun each having our own room, each decorated to suit our individual taste. And we have blissful restful sleep, and very happy and romantic lives together.

    Loulou

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    1. Oooh! I love hearing this! Thanks so much for your comment. Going to check out your blog right now:)

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  15. Funny you should ask. My husband Marco is away on a three-week hiking trip (without me, the cheek!) and even though I miss him a lot, the one thing I was looking forward to is having the bed to myself. I love cuddling and falling asleep in each others arms, but you are right, I rest better when I sleep by myself. Even when he is home, I sometimes sleep on our sofa, just because I need some space. It was hard to ask him to give his okay to that, but I think he understands. But I am sure our first sleep together will also be good, because I'll know that he's safe back beside me.

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  16. Haha TOTALLY. I kind of love it when he gets out of bed and I can streeeeeeeeetch out! I think the probably is not having a king-sized bed. I can't wait until the day that we finally get one... ahaha. Whenever we do sleep in a king-sized bed I always feel MUCH more rested!

    And I can't believe you sleep on different sides all the time! Haha. The last time we switched was when we moved the bed around, but ever since then I always have the right side! (If you're on your back.) Any time we switch it seems so strange, ha!

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  17. i loved that you shared that fantastic comment from louise! surprising and hilarious. =)

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