Friday, August 31, 2012

How to still have a good day when you wake up to a rejection email from your dream job. In 6 easy steps!

Rejection makes me feel like singing "Somewhere Out There" I don't get it either.

It doesn't happen that often.  A job posting that might as well be personally addressed to you.  And maybe you never thought that you wanted it as a job, but as soon as you read the description, you knew.  It was dream job material.  And you were made for it.  Born for it even.  Everyone you told about it agreed.  And you had no reason to doubt them.

But then, a little over two weeks after applying, you wake up to a beautifully written, extremely encouraging rejection letter.  The kind of rejection letter that you’re starting to think you could add to tyour pile of other beautifully written and encouraging rejection letters and wallpaper your bathroom with all of them.  And although after applying for the job, you declared to the universe that if you didn’t get it, you would definitely throw yourself on the bed and have a good long cry (which you never thought you would ever do about a job.  But about this job you knew you would) you don’t cry.  You feel a little bit empty, and really down and blue, but you don’t cry.  Instead you take a shower, put on those cute shorts that make your legs look really good, throw your laptop in your backpack and leave the house.

And this is what you do next.

First, you go have coffee at a place that also sells different kinds of toast, and savor a ricotta pesto breakfast toast that you never knew was the perfect breakfast for you until you ate it.  Kind of like how you felt when you saw the posting for Dream Job.  While using the cafĂ©’s free wireless, you decided on a whim to go see Celeste and Jesse Forever at 10:45 in the morning. This is your first impromptu decision of the day. And it’s a good one.

During the previews you see a trailer for The Perks of Being A Wallflower that gives you goosebumps.  And although it’s a movie about a book, and you’re the kind of writer who’s more interested in books that are books, you know that you getting the chills while watching that preview has something to do with you being a writer no matter how many encouraging rejection letters you continue to get. Sorry you, that’s just the way it is. And actually, it’s a good thing.

After the movie, which made you decide you LOVE Rashida Jones, as opposed to just being “meh” about her like you were in the past, you turn down a side street and smell a really amazing smell.  That smell is ice cream cones.  And although you’re used to just walking by ice cream shops and enjoying the smell from the sidewalk most days in your life, you decided to go inside and have a cone alone today.  It’s lunch time after all, and you just read a rejection letter for your dream job a mere few hours ago.  This is the second impromptu decision of the day.  And it is also a great idea.

After the ice cream you go to a coffee shop where you can plug in you laptop and start writing about all the things you’ve been thinking about all day.  Because maybe it’s the perfect blue sky, the fact that you’re having a great Friday afternoon by yourself or that you are allowing yourself to believe those encouraging rejection words, but something is making you want to write, and you should just go write something, 'cause it’s so obvious that that’s what you need do.

In case you weren’t keeping track, we’re on step number 5 right now.  This step hasn’t happened yet, but you’ve made plans to meet with a friend at a waterfront park at 2:30.  This step is important because you know you have to talk about the rejection email to really feel more okay with it.  To maybe really avoid the having a good cry step that you haven’t had yet, but still might.  This friend will listen, totally get you and make you laugh.  This interaction will remind you that there is SO MUCH MORE to life than dream jobs.  That maybe, in the grand scheme of things they aren’t even that important.

And what’s step number 6?  You tell me.  Maybe it will be cooking dinner with your husband who will hug you and also make you laugh, maybe it will be another impromptu thing like drinks with other friends that you also have, who also care about you.  Maybe you’ll call your Mom.  Maybe you’ll have that really good cry in bed, and Queenie will come sit by you, because she can always tell when you’re sad.  Whatever it is, you know you’ll get through it.  And you know that you put yourself out there.  You took a risk and got rejected because you’re that close to reaching your goal.  You’re close enough to be rejected, and that’s a big deal.  Feeling sad about something like this, is actually pretty amazing.  And you can get through it.  You’ve got this.

21 comments:

  1. Just like you said-you put yourself out there. Just keep moving forward and putting yourself out there. There's something even better for you out there that you don't even know about yet.

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  2. I think I saw you walking down the street... I yelled your name but was on my bike and not in a place to swerve around. Rats, to think I could have been your number 6 - bump into a random friend!

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    1. Oh man! Sorry I didn't hear, I love running into people on the street in ny

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  3. I feel like I want to cry for you. Pretty amazing sounding day when you could have just moped around in jammies. Sorry to hear about your bad news.

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  4. I would have loved to experience this day, just without the email in the morning. I am sorry it had to contain that part. I am glad you discoverd you love Rashida Jones, though, because she is one of my girl crushes and I could not stand somebody not liking her! ;o)

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    1. Have you seen Celeste and Jesse Forever? I loved it!

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    2. Oh, I just watched the trailer. Looks like it would make me cry. I don't think it was out in Europe. :o(

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  5. Way to show those job woes who's boss! Your day sounds amazing.

    P.S. Perks is my all time fave book and I am so nervous about the movie!

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    1. I know, I'm really nervous too. What do you think of the trailer?

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  6. aww, I'm sorry. I know how much rejection stings. But like you, I always try to use rejection as an excuse to have an extra good day ;) I think if you don't get a job you think you REALLY REALLY want, it's because someone out there has something even BETTER in store for you...you just don't know what it is yet :)

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  7. It takes a really awesome person to wake up to a rejection letter, claim the day for herself and inspire others in the process. Way to go!

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  8. Oh, I'm sorry about the job... but this is just the post I needed to read this weekend... so thank you.

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  9. Thanks you so much for all of these sweet comments everyone!

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  10. Loved this post, Sar. Reason #324 why I think you're amazing.

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  11. yessssssss! this is great! except when this happened to me, i DID cry..i blubbered, called in sick to my current job and moped a lot.

    i'm much better now ;)

    Amy

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    1. Awww thanks Amy! And glad to hear you're better now!

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  12. I love this! I'm glad you made it a good day. :)

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    1. And now I am singing Somewhere Out There...

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    2. Doesn't it feel oddly appropriate?

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